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Be realistic, say who you really are–that is if you want a committed relationship.  If it’s a one-night-stand, all bets are off, buyer beware.

But this blog doesn’t address the one-nighters.  We are talking true love, marriage, the whole 9 yards.  How do I know this is possible?  Because I did it.

By having a place to list your values, genuine beliefs and likes and dislikes you filter out all the Mr. or Ms. Wrongs…something that never happened (for this writer) when the match was made by nothing other than being mutually visually appealing.  I can’t tell you how many ultra liberal ladies end up with guys-and vice versa-who have nothing in common with them simply because of physical attractions.

It’s not worth the aggravation.  Opposites may attract but like mindeds stay glued together through rainy days, mundane months, and illness, simply because the good times are worth whatever you put up with.

So how do you make it work?  Save time by not meeting with our chatting with people who you know in your heart are not right for you.  And by all means, care about looks; it is PART of the whole deal:  just don’t make it the only part.

Studies show that couples who are a similar level of hot (i.e. wow, she’s a 10) are the best combination for relationships that are good for both people, sexually fulfilling and long lasting.

So log on and write that profile.  Say the truth but avoid deal breakers…give someone a chance to fall in love with you.  As the saying goes, “If college students knew what it was really going to be like, half of them would never enroll.”

Truthful yes, but “to much information”, no.

As to which online dating site to use, the less trashy they look , the better they are.  But don’t waste money on upgrades.  You can post your profile for free and then see what happens.  If you need to join, wait till you get a response from someone who sounds worth it, then join…

As for how long it should take, if you are sticking in a small number of square miles-which is strongly advised-you will know if anyone’s on there within a month.  If the first month doesn’t take, wait till some time has passed and try again, but don’t continually hook up with people who are not suitable - it will jade you.

Be ver……ry selective about giving your real number or email and especially about agreeing to meet.  If you don’t talk easily on the phone, don’t meet.

Happy romancing.  You know, the man or women of your dreams IS out there. Go find ‘em.

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Divorce can most definitely prove to be a very difficult, life-changing situation to deal with. It does not, however, mean the end of potential personal relationships with a significant other. Despite dealing with the pain of a recent divorce, it is certainly helpful to get out and start dating once again. But, there is a right way and a wrong way to do this. Here is a brief look at some of the “Dos and Don’ts” for dating after a divorce.

Do not rush out and start dating too soon after a divorce. While you may wish to do this as a form of escape, the emotional toil of the recent divorce may make successful dating a little difficult. That is why it is best to allow a reasonable amount of time to pass before heading out on a date.

Do not wait too long to date after your divorce. Some men may wait upwards of 18 months after being divorced before heading out on the dating trail once again. This is most definitely not advised because that is just too much time to spend lonely and by yourself.

Do not turn your dates into a therapy session. While there is much weighing on your mind from your divorce, this is not something you want to share with a new person you just met.

Do make your first few dates lighthearted and fun. This will not only help improve your mood and make the evening fun for you, your date will certainly have a great time being with you when you are like this.

Do look to try new and interesting things when you start dating. This will keep you from falling backwards into your previous life and allow you to see the proverbial brave new world that the dating realm has open to you.

Do try your best to find your perfect match. This way, you may find a new person in your life that could potentially be the person that you spend the rest of your life with. This alone should make you motivated to once again enter the dating realm and enter it in the right frame of mind and the right enthusiasm.

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Top 10 Reasons To Keep Dating When Divorced

September 21, 2009

No one enjoys the aftermath of a divorce because it often seems like the end of the world. Don’t let it be. Instead, pull yourself together and start dating after a divorce. Here are ten reasons why:
There is simply no good reason not to date after a divorce. A divorce may mean the unfortunate end [...]

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How to get back in the Saddle, after Divorce

August 7, 2009

Being a in a devoted relationship for a long period of time, can very well repress a portion of your individuality. Take advantage of this time following your divorce to find that individuality again. Discover new activities and interests, search for old friends, and most importantly, do things to make yourself happy and healthy.

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How to Deal with Erectile Dysfunction

August 5, 2009

It’s normal for men to lose their erection every so often. Although when the erection is not sustained in order to have sex at least half of the time, does the lack of hardness becomes a problem.

Erectile dysfunction is a condition in which erection that is sufficient for sexual penetration or satisfaction is not attained [...]

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The Best Activities for Divorced Men

August 5, 2009

STAY ACTIVE

Going fishing with family members, friends or even yourself, is a great way to stay active and get yourself out of the house. Also you will feel better doing things that help you relax and make you happy. There’s nothing better than a day at the lake just listening to the wind with your [...]

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Top 10 Healthy Activities for Seniors

June 15, 2009
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Don’t let age stop you from working out and reaping the benefits of a healthy lifestyle. The following is a list of the Top 10 activities for seniors that are not only healthy, but fun!
Number One: Tai Chi
This ancient Chinese form of exercise helps to teach you balance and relaxation techniques. The slow movements are [...]

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Coping With Depression

May 28, 2009

You Life’s Not Over

What Is Depression?
It’s impossible to escape life’s ups and downs. Feeling unhappy or sad in response to the disappointment, loss and frustration of a divorce is normal. Many people use the word “depression” to explain these kinds of feelings, but that is really situational depression, which is a normal reaction to events [...]

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