Be realistic, say who you really are–that is if you want a committed relationship. If it’s a one-night-stand, all bets are off, buyer beware.
But this blog doesn’t address the one-nighters. We are talking true love, marriage, the whole 9 yards. How do I know this is possible? Because I did it.
By having a place to list your values, genuine beliefs and likes and dislikes you filter out all the Mr. or Ms. Wrongs…something that never happened (for this writer) when the match was made by nothing other than being mutually visually appealing. I can’t tell you how many ultra liberal ladies end up with guys-and vice versa-who have nothing in common with them simply because of physical attractions.
It’s not worth the aggravation. Opposites may attract but like mindeds stay glued together through rainy days, mundane months, and illness, simply because the good times are worth whatever you put up with.
So how do you make it work? Save time by not meeting with our chatting with people who you know in your heart are not right for you. And by all means, care about looks; it is PART of the whole deal: just don’t make it the only part.
Studies show that couples who are a similar level of hot (i.e. wow, she’s a 10) are the best combination for relationships that are good for both people, sexually fulfilling and long lasting.
So log on and write that profile. Say the truth but avoid deal breakers…give someone a chance to fall in love with you. As the saying goes, “If college students knew what it was really going to be like, half of them would never enroll.”
Truthful yes, but “to much information”, no.
As to which online dating site to use, the less trashy they look , the better they are. But don’t waste money on upgrades. You can post your profile for free and then see what happens. If you need to join, wait till you get a response from someone who sounds worth it, then join…
As for how long it should take, if you are sticking in a small number of square miles-which is strongly advised-you will know if anyone’s on there within a month. If the first month doesn’t take, wait till some time has passed and try again, but don’t continually hook up with people who are not suitable - it will jade you.
Be ver……ry selective about giving your real number or email and especially about agreeing to meet. If you don’t talk easily on the phone, don’t meet.
Happy romancing. You know, the man or women of your dreams IS out there. Go find ‘em.
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