men and divorce
Contrary to popular beliefs, not only women have a hard time dealing with divorce. Even though divorce is so common nowadays, this doesn’t mean that it hardly worries those who undergo through it. We will delve on the fact that divorce represents an end to a disillusioned state.
Many get married thinking and hoping that they will have a partner for the rest of their lives. Men, despite the fact that they do not express their emotions as well as women, do feel the pain and are unable to work and function normally for quite some time after a divorce.
Unlike women, men have a harder time dealing with emotions. Instead of crying, many of them experience rage, angst and anger. It is common to see divorce men work for longer hours, indulge themselves in alcohol or unhealthy relationships with the opposite sex. Some even try death-defying sports activities to forget the pain and to ease the longing.
Because men want to show strength, they often have a harder time expressing what they really feel. Even men who have understood that divorce is the best way to get on with their life experience the loneliness and the disappointment.
A new direction has to be created. A new perspective and understanding who they really are needs to evolve. All sorts of question will rise up and a lot of thinking is involved. Many people who undergo divorce go through a sense of loss, decreased of self confidence and self-esteem. It will take months and years to create a new self.
men and divorce
The support of friends is crucial at this time. The society’s point of view could really be harsh during this time. No matter how successful one is with their job, if their marriage has failed, something is missing. Divorced men have to find ways to boost their sexuality, capacity to protect and provide, to find their self worth in order to get healed.
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